Skip navigation! Story from Sex. Butt sex can be incredible — but anal sex demands respect. As psychologist David Ley, PhD, once told Refinery29 : "If you try to do it the way most porn does, it will be like learning to shoot from watching Steven Seagal movies: Somebody will get hurt. For the most part, there's one anal sex position in mainstream porn: the receiving partner bent over, somehow enjoying being jackhammered in the booty by a massive penis. While anal sex from behind can feel marvellous and indeed provides fairly easy butthole access , it's neither the only nor the most pleasurable position for everyone. But before you even choose a position and stick a penis or a strap-on dildo into an anus, you have to make sure that that anus is properly loved and cared for. That means starting small with fingers, butt plugs, or anal beads and moving up to a penis or larger dildos and using plenty of lube, since the anus isn't self-lubricating. Usually, a silicone-based lube is your best bet for butt stuff, because the rectum absorbs water rapidly. But if you're using a silicone toy for anal stimulation, you're better off using a water-based lube.
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Making sure anal sex is always a fun and pleasurable experience with your man is important if you want to keep your sex life hot. Quick Warning: While this tutorial video is quite distressing, it will teach you how to make your lover scream with pleasure and become sexually addicted to you. Just like there are a ton of different ways to give your man a good blow job , there are also a lot of fun and pleasurable anal sex positions to try with your man!
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We checked in with some experts and asked them to take the mystery out of anal sex, and they schooled us on some positions that can help ease you into your first time to actually make it an enjoyable experience. In the traditional cowgirl position, your partner lies down while you mount on top — yeehaw! As the partner on top, you can ease into anal penetration by moving up or down as needed. Remember to go at an easy pace and stay relaxed. It helps to have had an orgasm already and be highly aroused. Jess, Ph. Her hand becomes an extension of her butt while providing a physical buffer to ensure only shallow penetration.
You know that iconic moment when Oprah gave away a car to everyone in the audience? And you get to try anal! Sound crazy?